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March reads

A Flicker in the Dark by Stacy Willingham
This had a great interesting start, with the narrator being the daughter of a serial killer arrested when she was a teen and “left to grapple with the truth and try to move forward while dealing with the aftermath”. When the book begins as Chloe is trying to keep moving on with her life – through with the help of alcohol and drugs – the murders start again… the work of a copycat?
Though it was slow-paced, it was a quick read. It has a bunch of twists, some predictable, some less, I expected a bit more. It seems like it was meant to be a psychological thriller but I found the end a bit too messy on this side.

The Immortalists by Chloe Benjamin
A psychic tells siblings the date of their death, some soon, some decades later. How will each of them handle the prophecy and how much knowing when they’ll die will influence how they live?
I had some troubles getting into the book at first, but then we dived into Simon’s story and it was so representative of his time, so sad but so full of life too… My favorite part of the book for sure.

A Good Man by Ani Katz
The narrator is a good man, with a good family and a good life. Or is he? How fragile can this perfect life be? Everything has taken a turn for the worst and though we won’t know specifically what happened until the very end, we listened as he unraveled the story of his life to try to understand when things took a spin, and if he is a victim, or a monster.
Through the story was not groundbreaking or the ending as surprising as maybe intended, it was a super short read, I picked it up and didn’t put it down before it was over. A good drama book for an afternoon.

The Body in Question by Jill Ciment
Another great starting point: Hannah is a juror on a very mediation and horrible crime, we follow her during her period of sequestration. It was a quick read too, some passages about jury duty life were interesting, but overall I couldn’t really believe the [SPOILER] love affaire with another member of the jury.[/SPOILER]. The choice of not telling us either what really happened in the actual murder case was a bit frustrating, but I actually loved that choice. The jurors don’t know more than what was presented and a year later they still can’t be sure if their verdict was right. Annoying, but real!

Categories: Prison

Richard Tabler

I reposted the post I wrote for Wire of Hope’s Instagram yesterday but I wanted to talk more about Richard Tabler. First, he is looking for pen pals and that’s how we met, he joined Wire of Hope, and we stroke a friendship. He is on Texas death row (already terrible life conditions), but he lives in harsher circumstances as he is the only person who is permanently housed on death watch, at Polunski Unit. A rapid Google search will make you believe his mom smuggled a phone to him and he used it to threaten a State Senator’s daughters, which lead to his super-high security housing and the arrest of his mother and sister, and their definite loss of visitation. The truth is that he used a smuggled phone – his mother has nothing to do with this, but she did buy minutes for the phone so he could call her – and made a call trying to raise awareness on the living conditions on Texas death row. Obviously, making an unauthorized phone call from inside to someone of power was not the smartest move, but does this deserve an unending housing on DEATH WATCH? All his neighbors are men who have received an execution date, and as he builds relationships with them, they get closer to their date and eventually, he witnesses them leave to their death. On top of this mental torture, he has not been allowed to see his family since the phone incident, over 13 years ago.
I suppose I relate as I feel he is the only one who has an idea of what I’m going through, having lost my visits too. He says it’s different however, and it is, because it’s not his life partner, there is no child involved, but it’s been going on for so long it makes me sick for him. I have a really hard time accepting prison authorities have almost all-power as there is no real oversight, and no one cares enough to change that… Anyway, if you’d like to get to know Richard, here is his profile on Wire of Hope: https://wireofhope.com/prison-penpal-richard-tabler/

 

Categories: Books, Prison

Within the Shadows of Life

Richard was writing his autobiography when he first joined Wire of Hope. He tells the story of growing up feeling unwanted and unloved and how he embraced a life of crimes while searching for his place in the world… until he ended up on Texas death row.
Without even realizing it, and before he even found anyone to write to through us, we at Wire of Hope made an impact on him, and we were moved to read he even mentioned us in his book.

Categories: Books

February reads

Photo by David Lezcano on Unsplash

 

 

I only read two books in February:

I thought it would be a short fun witchy read, and it was witchy-ish but not really my cup of tea witchy I guess. Too juvenile and “simple” maybe. I couldn’t really get into the relationship at the center of the book, nor their past or their evolution. It’s probably a good young adult book, and there are some love scenes too that may be found spicy to a younger audience.

 

I am sure this book spoke deeper to Asian-Americans but because I lost my dad after a long period of illness, I could unfortunately relate very much to some parts of the book. Though the food is at the center of the book, and food is not very important to me and none of the dishes were familiar, the author did a good job at transmitting their meaning and importance to the reader. I understand the search for our personality and culture, and trying to figure out what came through our parents, and what in this is them, and what is really us.
I liked the book, it was intimate, honest, sad (I did cry), vulnerable (and so, brave).

Categories: Prison

Wedding Anniversary

Today is the 6th anniversary of our legal union. I think we would agree that our commitment to each other took place a year prior, but some days it’s hard not to see the beginning of our correspondence as some type of magickal reunion. I can’t believe it’s been 8 years already…

@sigridwoh I still d❤️. 6 years down, forever to go. #weddinganniversary #prisonwifelife #prisonwifetiktok #incarceration #prisonrelationships #prisonwives #forever #prisonlove #lovelockeddown #longdistancerelationships #truelove #separatedbyprison #lockeduplove #longdistance #prisonvisits #notsilenced #facesofincarceration #happymarriage #deathwontdouspart #lovestory #loveyou ♬ memories – Maroon 5

Being in prison, it can be hard to make a wedding anniversary special.

Wedding anniversaries are a time for couples to celebrate their love and commitment. It is about celebrating the union of two people who pledged to stay together through the good times and the bad (when prison is involved, the bad can be so bad you know a marriage is really strong if it survives it). However, when one spouse is incarcerated it can be difficult to make this day special.

The main goal is to find ways for your spouse to still feel close with you on that day. It is easy when it falls on a visit day but if not, here are some ideas for you:

  • you can send them a card (cards are always special ❤️)

– you can find my “I still d❤️” card in my shop –

  • or/and a JPay/Corrlinks/other institutional email provider message letting them know you are thinking of them;
  • or write down some memories from your past anniversaries and share them with your spouse over the phone if you are lucky to get a phone call that day;
  • give them something they will enjoy receiving on that day. Incarcerated individuals cannot really receive gifts of course, so you are limited to paper gifts:  a book – maybe some type of relationship or appreciation journal, a beautiful picture of you two (or a nice picture of you!), etc. This will require some organization skills and luck to arrive around the right day.
  • You can also post about it on social media. Obviously, only do so if you feel it is safe to do so, on a private page with limited access maybe.  This is just a nice gesture for your incarcerated partner to be acknowledged. I also like to do that to remind people that yes, I do have partner, he is real and loved – and the middle finger to those who did not believe in us or did not support us is always a bonus 😉
  • You can also make your own personal playlist, on Spotify or any other music app you use, and send your spouse the list so they can get the same songs and  listen to it “together” – this will definitely require a budget considering the price of songs when in prison.

Happy Anniversary!

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