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January reads

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On my last post I talked about one of my goals for 2022: read more books! I am writing this mid-April so it would be easy to think I didn’t read much and have nothing to share, but I have actually been doing very good (with at least this goal :p). Maybe I should have added to blog more… Anyway, back to the books, I do use my Audible subscription, but I did sign up for Libro too. When you open your account, you choose a local bookstore you want to support and the profits will be share with them.
Then I found out about Libby! This one is free because you borrow books from your actual local library!
With all those apps, I am set up for plenty of reading options of all genres.

Here is what I read (or listen to) in January (I decided catching up with 3 months would be too much for one post so I make separate ones):

The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander

The title is pretty clear about the book’s subject. I read this book as a part of the Campaign for Justice Bookclub by the ACLU of Florida. I was excited about finally reading this book but even more about the opportunity to discuss it with like-minded or at the very least open-minded people. Each time there was a meeting, I felt (re)motivated by the other members acknowledging the issues of  both the justice system and the corrections system, neither of which does what their title implies.

Michelle Alexander gives us the history of slavery evolving to incarceration for people of color, and expose with numbers, experiments and experiences how our system is still racially motivated and enforced, whether we are actively conscious of it or not.
If you are already well-informed about the American criminal justice system, it will not make your brain explode, if you are not, it might open your mind to questions you had not consider before – or I should that “you never had to consider before” because you are privileged. I think this is maybe where this book is the most powerful: when it acts as an eye-opener to the people who are on the other side of the gate and have the power to embrace change.

 

American Girl by Wendy Walker

This book was all over Audible when I started my subscription. It is about a small-town murder witnessed by the narrator of the book, an autistic 17-year-old girl. I was like, sign me up! Charlie wants out (of the town, her blended family and sometimes her mind), works at a sandwich shop to save money, when her boss is killed. For the rest of the book she is trying to remember what exactly happened while trying to protect others and navigate her feelings towards a childhood friend now police officer (of course).

It wasn’t as dark, serious, or even believable as I expected and I was a bit disappointed. I kept having issues with the story development and some parts were too predictable, but it was a fun quick listen (it’s an Audible exclusivity so only available as an audiobook, and some scene are recreated instead of read).

 

Somebody’s Daughter by Ashley C. Ford

Somebody’s Daughter is a Memoir. Ashley C. Ford tells her story of growing up a Black and poor girl with the heavy absence of her incarcerated father. Because I constantly worry about my son, all I wanted to get out of this book was that Ashley was okay, she was strong, and she had a close relationship with her father despite them being separated by prison most of her life. I was expecting to read more about this relationship but luckily for Ashley, there is more to her story. As complex as it is, because someone did something wrong doesn’t mean you stop loving them (it’s not black and white like people like to think), and also because someone raised you alone doesn’t mean you owe them unconditional love – yes, this book is more about Ashley’s complicated relationship with her mother. It is hard and honest, and beautifully written.
It is even better if you go with the audiobook because it is read by the author herself 🙂

Categories: Recommendations

What to watch

Ocean (France TV Slash)
Unfortunately, it’s only available in French on France.TV, but if you do understand French, I definitely recommend.

I randomly saw an Instagram post about season 2, and that’s how I discovered there was an intimate show about Ocean. Ocean is a French comedian, a trans-man previously famous for his stand-up show “la lesbienne invisible” (the invisible lesbian).
The first season follows him as he begins his FtM transition, including the first hormone shot, the coming-out – one private and one public, his family and friends’ adjustment and misgendering mistakes… and all the questioning and restructuring he needs to go through becoming a white (heterosexual?) male as a radical feminist. I’m barely exaggerating saying it felt like becoming the enemy. His friends also pointed out to him he now had a pattern of dating young women. All this triggered a will to date a larger spectrum of people (shown more in season 2), non-binary people, maybe men, and a clear annoyance of looking too much like a boring heterosexual couple with one of his partners. Who he sleeps with is not what is interesting here, the reflection on it is.

Season 2 starts two years after the end of season 1, and Ocean now benefits from “passing” (which means he is perceived as a cisgender man). Aware of his privilege, he wanted to share the screen time with other people of diverse backgrounds, journeys and identities. He goes to meet them and let them tell their stories, educative for all of us. Each episode is around a theme, like racism, fatphobia, intersex, disability and more.
I watched the season 1 in one sitting and watched the season 2 the next day. I think it’s a great introduction to transgender issues. My only criticism would be that I feel you maybe have to already be a little educated on the subject to understand everything as many terms are thrown around and may be confusing to some who don’t know them.

https://fb.watch/75iUkxurcN/

 

Trial by Fire (HULU)


It’s an Edward Zwick movie so you already know two things: 1) it’s going to be quality, 2) you’ll cry at some point. It is based on the real story of Cameron Todd Willingham who was accused and then convicted of killing his 3 toddler daughters, killed in a fire that destroyed the family’s home. Everything is obviously horrible and tragic, but I won’t say more to not spoil the movie if you are not familiar with the case.

Life Overtakes Me (NETFLIX)


This 39-minute film is on Resignation Syndrome, an illness that put you in a coma-like state and that hundreds of refugee children are suffering from in Sweden, and that is now developing in other countries (there are known cases in Australia refugee detention centers). I saw the trailer and I had SO MANY questions. Why does this happen, how does it start, what is it really like for the child and the family, how long can it last, how does it stop? It seemed both insane and fascinating, and luckily the film answered all my questions. Resignation Syndrome is provoked by extreme trauma (they are refugees, friendly reminder that refugees are not immigrating for pleasure, they are fleeing a terrible and life-threatening situation), and an uncertain resident status. I have zero problem imagining how terrifying and stressful it must be to face deportation and being sent back to the horrors you escaped (I mean I am stressed about my own immigration status when the worst that can happen to me is to be send back to a country with healthcare), but it seems incredible to be completely unresponsive for months as a result! The human body and brain will never stop surprising me! Check out this film if you’re curious about this too!

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